Sensual, Thoughtful, and Very Naughty
Playing in the cuckold space is one of my favorite sexual fantasies. Whether I am the cuckold or the alpha male (man assisting in the cuckolding of another man), the erotic layers of this fantasy fascinate me. I am not alone. Within the world of sexual fantasies, cuckolding is a very popular fantasy. Despite its popularity, many cuckolds feel embarrassed or ashamed of harboring this fantasy. I hope to shine some light on the subject.
Neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam analyzed one billion sex-related search terms as research for their 2012 book, A Billion Wicked Thoughts. They found that cuckold-related searches rank #2 among most searched for sexual content on the internet. Clearly, there is interest in this sexual behavior.
The meaning of “cuckold” has evolved over time and today we understand it as a term referring to a sexual fantasy/fetish in which the man is stimulated by his emotionally committed partner having sex with another man or men. In its purest form, cuckolding involves three elements. We have a couple that is emotionally committed to one another, his lover is having sex with another man or men, and this arrangement turns the male partner on as well as his lover.
Why are men (or women for that matter) drawn to this popular but secret fantasy? There are many layers associated with this fantasy and each cuckold couple will have their own unique spin. This is why I began with a core definition that forms the essence of cuckolding and is shared by all cuckolds: we are in love, our lover is sleeping with other men, and this excites both of us. Beyond this core, the fantasy takes off in many directions and often becomes a fetish within a fetish.
Here are few cuckold-focused posts that I have already written and some I will be sharing soon:
Cuckold: Mind Bender – Cuckolding is sometimes referred to as the intellectual fetish. This posts explores the erotic layers of the cuckold fantasy and the importance of mental stimulation in the cuckold’s erotic pleasure. For some, there may also be a level of sadomasochism (the “SM” in BDSM) at play. The cuckold’s intense arousal comes from the intense but very pleasurable mental and emotional burn of watching his lover with another man.
Sperm Wars: Seeding Passion’s Flame – It is a somewhat uncomfortable confession…that it really turns me on to think about my lover with another man. The emotional burn, intense mind-fuck, and physical arousal is like nothing I have ever known. Knowing another man is fucking your lover induces a biological reaction known as sperm competition. Measurable effects includes increased arousal (hardness), increased sperm volume, higher sperm motility, increased thrusting, and deeper penetration. Explore the possibilities of sperm competition to reignite the passion in your relationship.
Video: Naughty Angel (Dominant Cuckold) – Dominance and submission are erotic layers sometimes at play in cuckolding. Typically, the cuckold is seen as submissive but this isn’t always the case. Check out this video for a visual exploration of the Dominant cuckold.
Cuckolding vs. Femdom – These fantasies often co-exist in male fantasies but they are not one in the same. Join me for an exploration that teases out the differences between between cuckolding and Femdom fantasies.
Cuckold-related topics for future exploration:
To wrap up this introduction, I set out to show the popularity of cuckolding and define its critical attributes–a definition that applies to all cuckolds. I’ve also shared some brief introductions to additional erotic layers of the cuckold fantasy that I will be sharing this year on the Dionysian Experience.
I hope you enjoyed this brief introduction to cuckolding and will join the discussion. If you enjoyed the post, don’t be bashful. Click the “like” button and/or leave a comment. Let’s bring cuckolding out of the shadows.