Cuckold: All The World's A Stage
Black Mystique is a new series exploring interracial cuckolding as a sexual kink. My exploration of this subject narrows the scope of interracial cuckolding to specifically refer to cuckold play between black men and white couples.
Neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam analyzed one billion sex-related search terms as research for their 2012 book, A Billion Wicked Thoughts. They found that cuckold-related searches rank #2 among most searched for sexual content on the internet. Ogas and Gaddam drilled down even deeper. After gaining access to the database of a popular cuckold erotica site, they identified the following as the most common two-word search phrases: Black Cock #1, Black Man #2, and Big Black #6. Cuckolding and interracial sex are separate fetishes but they are often intertwined in sexual fantasies and, as the data suggests, very popular.
The distinction between interracial relationships in general and interracial sex as a kink should be noted. The former refers to people falling in love without regard to ethnic differences. The latter sexualizes and eroticizes ethnic differences and is the focus of my exploration. The interracial sex fetish flows both ways and isn’t only the sexual fetishization of black men by “some” white people. There are also “some” black men that fetishize white women and white wives. Each derives added sexual pleasure from the interracial layers of these sexual liaisons.
What is it about interracial cuckolding that makes it so popular? Henry joins me today to share some of his thoughts on the fantasy. Henry is a 40-something, married British male that identifies himself as a cuckold. Henry has never actually been cuckolded, but it is his number one fantasy.
Michael – Thank you for agreeing to this interview.
Henry – Sure, the pleasure is mine. I have some things I want to share and hope it is a message that gets out and helps others like myself.
Michael – What do you mean when you say, “others like myself”?
Henry – I’m an attractive yet smallish white male that actively embraces the role of being a beta male. No longer do I have to try and be something I’m not. I don’t have a big cock and don’t feel the need to compensate for this through false bravado. Nor do I feel the need to mock or demean those males who have what I don’t. I’m simply a good looking but smallish white male who is happy with himself and his place in life.
Michael – Being happy is a wonderful state of mind. You identify yourself as a cuckold and made reference to your smallish physical stature, modest endowment, and called yourself a beta male. How does this connect to your cuckold fantasy?
Henry – I believe a specific niche has opened up for males like me and that is the niche of interracial cuckolding. This is a niche where a white male can look after, care, support, and love a white female who has an attraction for big black males. Such a relationship allows the white female to have unlimited access to black men while always having the support and care of her white cuckold. The cuckold gains much of his sexual satisfaction vicariously through his white wife/girlfriend’s enjoyment of black lovers.
Michael – You are touching on a lot of themes I come across in interracial cuckolding. I’d like to drill down on some of them individually for a moment if you don’t mind. Earlier, you mentioned not needing to make demeaning comments about others that have what you don’t. What are you talking about here?
Henry – We all know for the most part that black guys have bigger cocks and have more muscular physiques. This bothers some people and they can’t handle it so they make derogatory comments to make themselves feel better about their own inadequacies.
Michael – Thanks for clearing that up. You mention your physical stature earlier and then went to the thought about white women craving black men. Help me connect the dots.
Henry – For cuckolds like myself, I believe we are tapping into something very primal. I imagine ancient communities where the smaller male was not seen as a viable partner to most women. Women selected the strongest and most successful warriors for protection and preferentially mated with them. The smaller male’s place was to support the females of dominant alpha males. I think women still desire this.
Michael – I have a sense of how you are eroticizing your comparative physical stature and turning it into something that excites you sexually. In your description of the ancient world, I imagine there was some balance of physical stature and intellect that would appeal to those women. Physical stature may have even played a more prominent role. I’m not sure being a great swordsman (pardon the pun) carries the same weight today as it did back in the day. Societies and species evolve and what may be seen as the ideal mate today may be very different than it was long ago. For example, economic viability and/or power may be more desirable today than the ability to fight off wild animals or warriors from marauding tribes.
Henry – I think women still have the same genetic wiring. A physical specimen excites them today just as it always has. I think white women are drawn to black men as alpha males because of their physical prowess and large cocks. Maybe they just don’t act on it because of the economic reasons you suggested and societal pressures. It is difficult to prove or advance my belief. What I do know with certainty is that I would gain great sexual satisfaction from my wife mating with dominant black men.
Michael – You are making some interesting points. The influence of culture is a powerful force and influences our sexuality. Throughout the world, there has been pressure to repress the sexuality of women through religion and other constraints. Personally, I have often wondered how a woman would behave sexually when given complete freedom and no fear of being judged negatively. You make a point to specifically mention a preference for your wife to have sex with black men. Tell me more about this desire.
Henry – Our sexual satisfaction as beta males is enhanced when the alpha males are black and our partners white. I’m really not sure why there aren’t many more of these relationships as such relationships seem to exemplify what many black and white men are looking for.
Michael – We might find it helpful to step back and take a little wider view of interracial relationships and relationships in general. Is it possible that some black men fantasize about their wives cuckolding them with white men? There are also large white men and small black men in the world. How about Latino men or Asian men fantasizing about their wives cuckolding them with white men where power play is eroticized? Of course, there are always the women that aren’t interested in cuckolding at all. Everyone doesn’t view the world through the lens of cuckolding.
Henry – Well, I don’t know about those scenarios. It isn’t what excites me. Fair points though. Anyway, whatever the situation, I happen to believe there’s a good opportunity for white cuckolds, white girls, and black bulls to each find their niche—hopefully, we can all come together!
Michael – You mentioned the acceptance of your beta male role. Let me push your thoughts a little further. What do you think about the sexual fantasy of “wife breeding”? Specifically, does the thought of a black man “breeding” your wife excite you?
Henry – Fuck yes! That is hot! It is like the law of natural selection. White women and black men are meant to be together.
Michael – Wife breeding is an interesting fantasy I see in some cuckold erotica. I think this is a fringe fantasy even among cuckolds so I was curious to get your take. I suspect it has ties to exhibitionism, submission, sperm wars, and humiliation. If your wife has a black baby (not adopted) then it is evident to everyone that a black man fucked your wife, came inside her, and “bred” her. In this sense, you are exposed publicly (exhibitionism and humiliation) as a cuckold and have lost the sperm war. If the same thing happened with a dominant white male, the outcome would be as readily apparent.
Henry – I don’t know if your theories apply to me. I’m not really humiliated by this. I am merely accepting what is evident and inevitable. I would love taking care of and supporting my wife and the offspring of her black alpha male. That is what a good beta male does.
Michael – Your response is interesting. You have shared some interesting insights throughout this session and have made important contributions to my research. I appreciate you taking some time to walk me through your fantasy. On a lighter note, I hope your wife will soon experience the decadent pleasure of big black cock buried deep inside her fertile pussy.
Henry – Ha! You and me both! Thanks for such thoughtful, insightful and considerate responses. Damn these fetishes and where they come from! I hope we hear more about your relationships and your thoughts on interracial cuckolding because you write so erotically, openly, and honestly.
Michael – Thank you, Henry.
I never asked Henry if he shared his fantasy with his wife. It was a big miss. It would have been interesting to know her reaction and what aspects, if any, excited her. Henry shared many themes I have observed in other interracial cuckold fantasies. In time, I plan to break these themes out into their individual components and expand on the underlying psychological forces driving them.
Before closing, I want to acknowledge my awareness that interracial cuckolding sits squarely on the sensitive issue of race. While this fantasy is experienced between consenting black and white adults that find it highly erotic, it is race-based sexual play. Is it racist though? I find this question fascinating and will objectively explore it in a future post. My hypothesis is that while it is race-based, it is not racist.
There is much to discuss and discover in our ongoing exploration of the Black Mystique, and we already know one thing for sure. Interracial cuckolding exists and it is a very popular erotic genre. Your thoughts and comments are always welcomed.
Here are links for additional posts in the Black Mystique series: